No matter the reason a couple is getting divorced, it can be very emotionally traumatic. Coping with not being a couple any longer can be demanding financially, physically, and mentally which may be the main reason a couple decides to receive divorce counseling.
In the majority of cases, individual counseling is often the chosen way as some people often feel grief, depression, anxiety, fear, or guilt due to the end of their marriage. Counseling can usually benefit both partners as they will learn more about who they are and can see that divorce is a transition in life and is also an opportunity for personal development.
Some cases have shown that divorce may be a contributing factor for certain mental health disorders to arise including depression and anxiety. Too many times, people look at the divorce as their own personal failure. Divorce counseling can provide those going through a divorce with the help they need to understand their feelings, the end of their marriage and even see it in a new light. Some may learn through counseling what they really expect and do not want in their relationship which can lead to a better understanding of oneself.
In some cases, couples will go to counseling together in order to have a mediator that will help them go through the divorce with fewer arguments and emotional damage. An experienced divorce therapist can help couples with issues that arise during their divorces such as responsibilities to the children, financial obligations, and living arrangements.
For those with children, many parents are so involved with their own issues during a divorce, they may not realize if their children are also having emotional issues. Children can often feel many of the same problems as their parents during this new phase in their lives. They may feel like the divorce is their fault, especially if they have overheard their parents talking about custody or visitation. Children can also feel abandonment, pain, guilt, and loss. They may feel as if they must choose one parent over the other and worry about all kinds of other things during this time. Children may also need to talk with a therapist to learn to cope with their new life and how to cope with the new environment or feelings of loss.
Every couple that goes through a divorce will have different feelings according to the reason for the breakup. Learning how to cope with these feelings and discovering who you are without your spouse, may be the best reasons to seek divorce counseling. Too many times, people think it is normal and everyone gets a divorce and they should just suck it up and go forward. However, this is not really the case for many couples. It can be very difficult to learn to live without the other person in your life or you may be wondering what you did wrong to cause the breakup. No matter the reason, talking with a professional divorce counselor will give you the confidence you need to begin again.